Close Friend part 2

I was really confused about this “CF” things. But, recently I understand. What is “CF” mean for everyone around my age…

Whenever I saw Green Round in my instastory line, I think about anything, like..

“Am I that close to this person so she/he input me his/her “CF”?”

“Am I their close friend?”

Overthinking, confuse, and curious.

Why this people who I think not really close with me put me in their “CF” on Instagram?

Why they give me too much information about their life?

Why they want me to know about what happen to their life?

So, I do research for this confusing thing. I ask a few people about their close friend. You can choose which one are you, okay?

First category : People who input people who has the same gender with them. For example, I put every girl in my followers to my “close friends” because they are the same gender so I think they will understand what I’m talking about in my “close friends” stories. For this category, in my opinion, this people don’t have a real friends. No offense. But really, Im asking you who like this, “Why are you put all the girls/boys in that feature? Not everyone is nice or good, not everyone can keep a secret or not telling other people about what are you posting it in “close friends”. Trust me, the world not that beautiful”. For this category I think people like me a.k.a wearing hijab can relate, so she can show her girl friends that she has hair or she want to show her beautiful hair, right? But girl, you still need to choose people based on their personality too.

Second category : People who input people based on where they know each other. For example, I put my junior in senior high school because we know each other in senior high school, without knowing something about her except her name. Thats kind of weird but some people do that. For this category I can’t give a single comment because it’s weird. Don’t you know all people you follow, right? So, if you put people in Close Friends based on where you know them, you put a lot of people, huh? It’s no difference than the normal feature, dude.

Third category : People who input others people because you put their friends in your “close friends” so you feel like you rude if you are not put them. This kind of people is me. I used to be like this. I have a reason, so I put my friends and her friend is my friend too but not too close, and I feel like we are not close enough to put each other in “close friends”. And my friend’s friend ask me why she can’t see my post about one topic, Am I hide her or what. Of course she can’t see it because I don’t put her in my “CF” and after that she said, “Why don’t you put me on your ‘CF’? You so mean..” with her joking voice but sound so serious for me. So in the end of the day, I delete both of them :). Another example is my best friend has a guy friend. This will sound weird, for me I don’t know for you. This guy friend, I met him once or twice at my academy and then he ask me to set up him with my classmate. I said, okay. It was years ago and he and my friend don’t work out so I think we’re not that close because he’s not dating my friend too. I mean, I dated his friend but I never get know him except his name or what he has done with his girlfriends. I know that because my best friend and my ex-boyfriend told me. So, he follow me on Instagram and put me into his “CF” and give me an information that I don’t really need to know. Is it weird or just me who feel this is weird? Okay, next!

Fourth category : People who input the person they feel like they close with them. Like my best friend’s friend input me. But actually, this category more than that. I know someone in my collage, she and I never get a long. Even in the first day we in the same team. She really cold person. She never smile, she never say hi, it’s always been me who greet her with smile. She never reply my smile or my greeting. And then one day, I got task to do and she is my rival to that task. And I won. The worse situation is people around me want me to recruit her as my teammate. I thought as professional as I can. But yup, she made it hard for me. And that time I really hate her, I know hate is a strong word but trust me, if you know the whole story about this thing you will hate her with me. So, we work together for couple weeks. I hold myself so I don’t make a scene. But, this task ended because there is a controversy. I feel so happy, so I don’t really need to work with her. And then one day after this task ended, she put me on her “CF”…. For a second I was so confuse and thinking since when me and her a close friend. Until now she still put me on her “CF” and I don’t really give a damn about it anymore. Just let her be.

Fifth category : People who input all the people who know them at their best and worse. I feel like this category is all my friends because when I asked them about “CF”, they answered “I just put people who know me”. So, this category is about telling your best friend or best partner about your day without telling them one by one, you tell them at once. Simple and practical. People who do this usually know which one is best friends and which one is just friend. Good job, guys and girls!

Sixth category : People who input just family because like proverb say “No one you can trust except your family, they will never betray you”. Yup, my old sister do this. She put all the siblings and in law siblings to her “CF”.

Seventh category : People who put people who feel like sunshine. It means, they put the best person to show their best version of their self. This is awesome you know. You just show your true colors to people who can accept you for who you are. This category is usually for people who not easily open to other people except their person.

So, I ended my research until the seventh category because I thought everyone has their own “Close Friends” on Instagram types. I’m sorry if my words hurt you, I just write my opinion about this feature.

Which one are you?

_until next time, stay humble everyone!_